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September 13, 2008

Because it has been so long, I want to give notice that the reviews which I had earlier planned to do are still upcoming. I caught the “Death by Flu” which has been going around and was sick for a very long time, and still don’t feel entirely 100%. (Whimsy Winx of Virtually Dressed claims I had Ebola, I was sick for so long, lol) I am working on the first new post and will have that up as soon as I possibly can get them together. Apologies and gratitude go out to the designers who have given me review copies and been so patient with waiting for the articles to be posted.


The subtitle or tagline for this blog is

    A Girl, A Second Life(TM), And Way Too Many Opinions

To my friends, I am known as a straight shooter. I don’t hold back, I don’t prevaricate, I tell it how I see it. I am not malicious and I have no axe to grind. The following is my true and honest OPINION about some trends I am seeing on the Fashion Planet feed. We all have opinions and I don’t expect everyone to agree with me 100 percent or at all. Please feel free to scroll past if you so desire. Please keep in mind that despite my tone of irritation, this is only my opinion and nothing more.
People are free to comment (I tried to turn the moderation thingie off but may not have managed it) but abusive comments will be dealt with as I see fit.

I have noticed over the last weeks and months a sharp upgrade in two kinds of posts which have very little to do with SL fashion and everything to do with ego and attitude, as far as I am concerned. It is my opinion that we’d all be better off without either sort.

The first kind of post usually comes from Designers and though I have respect and admiration for you all, I have to tell you that posting like this just makes me want to take the considerable amount of real life money I spend in SL(Tm) every month somewhere else. That kind of post is the sort where you are fretting, fussing and fuming about your spot or rank on the Fashion Planet feed. I don’t really care why you feel it is necessary to post about this or who you are angry with when you do. To me as a reader, blogger and buyer, it makes you look petty, childish and prone to drama.

I have seen these kinds of posts make some very nice people very upset over things they cannot control. The feed updates and refreshes according to rules which we the bloggers who appear on the feed have nothing to do with whatsoever. None of us can control them. In fact, we can’t even get a cut on our own journals to work on Fashion Planet. If you have asked to be added to this Feed then you have to accept the limitations of the Feed as the price of admission, so to speak, and in my opinion, you need to get over it.

What we do know is,

1) If you update your journal, such as to fix an slurl or other factual error, most likely the date of posting will refresh placing your entry back at the top of the feed.

2) If you answer a comment, it is possible that your entry will refresh back to the top of the feed.

3) If you breathe funny, it is possible that your entry will refresh back to the top of the feed.

Okay, that last one is facetious but it underlines a point. Worrying and gnashing your teeth because so and so’s post ended up back at the top of the feed is a waste of your time, in my opinion. Posting about it in public not only is a waste of your time – and that of readers who want to look at the fashion not a lot of wanky* behavior -, but it also makes you look bad. (Again, in my opinion.)

It is my firm opinion that no blogger should tell another blogger what to blog. However, if you choose to blog about pettiness like this and happen to also be a Designer who posts the exact same thing in two or three different places, who also may post uber large size pictures and/or every single color of new releases available when you do post and therefore hog the feed in other ways, then it is my choice as a consumer and reader to take my lindens somewhere else. All of your efforts to get your items noticed will be wasted, in my view, at least.

The second type of post that I am heartily sick of and bored with is the type where a Blogger tries to tell the rest of the fashion blogging community what content to blog. Kindly get over yourself, blogger. You may very well be an extremely popular blogger and that’s wonderful. I may even be a fan of your blog myself.

However, you have no right whatsoever to lecture the rest of your fellow bloggers on what they are choosing to blog. The fact that you are doing so is, in my opinion, both pretentious and absurd, and makes me as a reader and fellow blogger have less appreciation for your talents as a stylist, coordinator, or whatever you call what you are doing when you blog. I am far more likely to scroll past your next post and those succeeding out of pure irritation.

Not everyone has the same skill level in terms of picture taking, posting or writing. That doesn’t mean that each blogger doesn’t have something unique to bring to the table, and that each blogger can’t contribute something. To paraphrase a famous quotation, let each give unto their own talents. And other people should bloody well keep their noses out of it, in terms of telling other people what to blog.

If you as a blogger and reader don’t like the content of a blog post (including this one!) then you have the option to scroll on down just like everyone else. Please spare the rest of us your “advice” unless it is solicited and please don’t buy into the notion that you are some exalted personage from on high simply because you run a popular blog. You put your rl pants on one leg at a time just like the rest of us, mkay?

Finally, I am seeing a trend on the Fashion Planet feed that is so inconsiderate, rude, and egotistical in my opinion that it makes me near speechless with aggravation. I am aware there is a lot of room on the feed which is habitually blank. This is because, I surmise, the feed is an aggregator, after all, and not a regular blog.

Those of you on the feed who are now making a habit of posting your images at sizes upward of 800×600 are not winning any friends or influencing any people whatsoever, in my opinion. I, and most of my large circle of friends whom I have polled for thoughts on this behavior are simply scrolling past this metaphorical “Who has the bigger unmentionables?” while rolling our eyes and wondering just why you feel it is necessary to throw this huge picture in a reader’s face.

If you really want to make a good impression, please consider posting your pictures at a more reasonable size with a click through to your ultra large size. Because I am aware different readers have different size views, I like to even indicate what size a picture is with the link so that a reader can make a choice that is comfortable for them. There are any number of ways of handling this which doesn’t overwhelm readers with a smaller screen size or stretch the browser window to a ridiculous extent. If I, as a reader, have to browse sideways to see your picture, I am not going to bother.

*For a definition of wanky please check webster’s or wikipedia.

11 Comments leave one →
  1. Zoey Pinkdot permalink
    September 13, 2008 4:33 pm

    I did very recently make a post about those on the feed who intentionally push their posts to the top of the feed so I must assume that I am included in the group of designers you are referring to. However I made it very clear that I am aware that there are those who jump up to the top of the feed for reasons beyond their control. These were not the ones I was speaking of. Whether you want to admit it or not there are those who intentionally set things up and push their post to the top. These are the people I complained about. I have been on the feed for a long time and this did not become a big problem until recently. That is in no way a ‘limitation’ that I should have to accept as you put it. If it was then it would have been just as prominent 6 months ago and it most certainly was not.

    I am also one of those that post photos larger than the size you have designated. Although I don’t recall their being a rule to the size of a photo you can post. My photos do not in any way consume the feed however and I’m not sure why the photos of others do. My photos are posted at the size they (1024 x 1024) because if someone is interested they can click on it and see the product I am advertising in very good detail. It personally frustrates me when I am interested in another person’s product but cannot get a big enough image from their post to really see any detail in the product. I will not be changing my posting size any time soon. If that means you stomp your feet and walk away from my products then so be it.

    Posting your own opinion is fine. I’m all for that. But you posted this stating that you “have seen these kinds of posts make some very nice people very upset”. Did you stop to think about the very nice people you have upset by this post…particularly when you make statements like “it makes you look petty, childish and prone to drama”? I’m guessing you didn’t.

    I am in no way childish or petty. And if you dig further and ask around (yes I too have a “large circle of friends” as you call it) you will find that I despise drama and do my very best to stay out of it. However when someone makes ill informed statements that have anything to do with me I will most certainly crawl out of my little hiding hole and respond.

    You are telling bloggers not to give advice on what other bloggers can and cannot post while doing the exact same thing. Furthermore, your advice is harshly worded, hypocritical, and has hurt and upset some of those very same nice people you speak about here.

  2. TeenaBasevi permalink
    September 13, 2008 4:35 pm

    /me claps!

  3. sugarrdelight permalink*
    September 13, 2008 4:46 pm

    Zoey, you are entitled to feel how you feel about my post. I take it very seriously that there are feelings behind every sl name and real people involved.

    However, I think my opinion is valid and I am entitled to see others through the lenses of my own experience.

    I apologize for any hurt that was caused, but I think it is obvious that hurt was not intended.

    Teena, thank you.

  4. kristimaurer permalink
    September 13, 2008 6:33 pm

    You’re saying that bloggers have no right to tell tell other bloggers what to post, but aren’t you doing the same thing with this post?

    And you say no hurt was intended, but when I posted a similar thing, you didn’t believe me. Hmm…now the shoe is on the other foot.

  5. September 13, 2008 6:42 pm

    Bloggers can specify the photo size displayed and then when people click on it let them see a larger version. I actually think people will get a better view of the outfit. Sometimes photos are so large that only a portion of the outfit shows in the window and it has to be an extremely eye-catching leg or elbow for me to shift from paging-down to moving my window to the side. People don’t scroll web pages that way — so it is more likely to be scrolled past.

    You know, I wonder if Zoey’s computer clock is off or something, because I have never seen a post of mine go from the top to the bottom any faster than is to be expected. Sure some days, lots post and it moves on down fairly quickly. Some days, there’s someone new who has decided to post everything that they have in their store. 8) I exaggerate. But by and large, the downward drift is pretty consistent. Now, to be fair, I haven’t been timing it – but really, it’s not a phenomenon I have noticed. Yes, I notice that some jump back up, well, we know that happens with edits and comments and so we just deal.

  6. September 13, 2008 6:43 pm


    I note the irony that in telling people to stop telling people what to do, you are in fact, telling people what to do.

    But thank you for doing so.

  7. sugarrdelight permalink*
    September 13, 2008 6:46 pm

    Kristi, I’m not telling anyone what to blog. At all. I am, however, saying that if you blog about the Fashion Feed and who is at the top I will form an opinion based on that.

    I also, made a peace offering to you on your post(s) If you go back through your comments, perhaps you will see it.

    I objected to some of the manner in which you presented your opinion, I would never tell you that you have no right to state it, on your own blog. I even remarked on that very thing when I commented to you the second or third time.

    However, as I read what you were saying, you were telling other bloggers what to blog. Perhaps I remember incorrectly.

  8. sugarrdelight permalink*
    September 13, 2008 6:48 pm

    Cajsa, I’m not really telling people what to do. I’m telling them I have an opinion on it if they do, do it. I believe firmly in the power of voting with your attention and your money.

    Thanks for your comment.

  9. kesseret permalink
    September 14, 2008 3:50 am

    Eh, this is exactly why I am working on what I am working on.

    I understand the image thing all too well. I wish cuts would work on the fashionplanet feed badly. When I have a long drawn out post about boring stuff I will turn on the summary (I just started doing this) for aggregation (if that’s a word).

    I’m not perfect, sometimes I forget because a) I’m tired- 90 percent of the time everything I do regarding my SL business is after a full days work- b) I’ve been drinking lol c) it just plain slipped my mind.

    I hope I didn’t bother you as I do post with non fashion things as well. I think what I do post is important to the fashion community in general though- be it jira talk or technical SL talk (only exception I can think of is the Shanti thing- but then again, anyone who got the ending knows why I posted that).

  10. sugarrdelight permalink*
    September 14, 2008 6:05 am

    Kesseret, I have no objections/thoughts whatsoever as to the general content of other people’s blogs. I don’t even say in my post that I’m telling people not to post the kinds of ranting posts I mentioned etc. I only say if they do, well then I have an opinion about it and will act accordingly.

    I appreciate your comments, and hope that what I had to say was not found offensive by you.

  11. tabitha ninetails permalink
    September 15, 2008 12:16 am

    brava, brava!

    just so you know, some of us *do* in fact, recognize the difference between sharing one’s opinion and telling others what to do.

    must be a defense mechanism- “aha, *she’s* doing it too!”.

    feel better now? sheesh.

    great post, sugarr.

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