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Please, Stop and Think

May 6, 2009

Please, hug your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, your dog, your cat, whatever.

Please, be grateful for the people in your life who love you and that you love.

This last month I’ve been going through some hard things in life, whether sl or rl and when I look at the feeds lately all I can think is – is this all that we care about? This? (And no, I’m not belittling fashion blogging, that’s not the target of this.)

Many of my nearest and dearest sl and rl friends are going through hard things too and I’m too far away often to do more than to pray and cry and think and worry for them as well as myself.


No, I don’t think of SL(tm) as just a game, far from it and it makes me sad that some people do think of it that way. Yes, I’m well aware many people need to make some real money out of their creations in SL (I’d like to make some too some day.) Yet, this sniping back and forth and constant drama and put downs and criticism and on and on and on, is that really who we are as people? Is this really what reflects us? Is that really what we want people to look back on when they think of Second Life?

It’s bad enough that Second Life residents are mainly thought of as sex obsessed perverts by mainstream media because most people in the mainstream don’t seem to bother to look deeper than something sensational. It’s bad enough that many of us with the mind set that can understand and enjoy Second Life for the benefits and pleasures it can bring in terms of conversation, creativity, beauty, and so on feel as though we don’t fit into the world many times or can’t explain what makes it enjoyable or unique to those in our real world lives. Do we really have to snipe at and tear down and piss on each other as well? Do we really have to criticize others in order to feel better about ourselves? Do we really have to take the tone of superiority under the guise of “teaching” someone else?

All I know is that I am deeply sad today and that perhaps I am as guilty of all these things as anyone else. That’s why I say we and not you and not they. All I know is that I have loved Second Life for a long time and now I barely want to log in any more, or read the feeds or plurk, because it seems as if I’m hit with more drama and meanness and cruelty all the time from somebody or other. Even if it’s not happening to me, it’s happening to someone I know and care about. So, please, stop and think and appreciate loved ones both in sl and in rl. Please, stop and think about who we are behind our monitors and our avatars and when we turn the computer off and walk away.

Photo is edited. Picture in no way does the creations of these artists and all the many others justice. Wearing some of my favorite things.

Outfit: the Laughing Academy by Tabitha Ninetails, Ceri includes lovely hat and adorable shoes.
Necklace, the Laughing Academy by Tabitha Ninetails, Maire
Earrings – Miriel, Countess earrings in gold
Hair – Euphoria in Chestnut, Zero Style
Skin – Belle, Candy Kisses Sunkissed by Belleza

7 Comments leave one →
  1. Erasmus Weatherwax permalink
    May 6, 2009 6:53 pm

    I adore you, ‘ya know. And everything is going to work themselves out–always does. And thanks for the post.

  2. May 6, 2009 7:34 pm

    Ditto what Ras said. I know I am one of the friends going through stuff, and yes I am ok. Shocked at how little time that cancer needed to take her but… As far as the drama you have seen all over, I’m not really sure what you mean. I mean there is allllllways some kind of drama going on in both life’s. I know what you are saying though, and we should all step back sometimes, it’s very easy to get caught up in stuff. After loosing my older sister last night, when we had no idea at all that was coming, she was showing signs the chemo was working, she was moving around, tests were good. I knew she would more than likely go sooner then later but not this sooner and I wished I would have told her how great I think she is and how much she impacted my life. But I didn’t, I was still collecting thoughts and thought I had more time. So, my sister was almost 2 decades older then me so she was often more a mother then sister and this Mothers Day I will think of her for the Mother side. We lost our mother 8 years ago. So I think we should add to this that you should stop and think about your Mom, those that have a healthy relationship with their Mom’s, tell them how much you love them. Tell them how much they have done for your life to make it better. Say Thank you! Mom’s often feel unappreciated, and we as the kids don’t think we are lacking. You always can do a little more, a extra line or two written on the Mothers Day Card you get for her. (Yes, you must give/send a card!)

    One last thing the SL friends and SL’s I don’t even really know have been of such support to me as I am going through RL crud. I don’t have many RL friends anymore, so my SL friends are my friends for the most part. I recieved so many thoughts, prayers, offers of lending an ear or shoulder etc. So, sometimes, drama can show what beautiful people we are too. Thank you all of my friends/plurkies/skypos Hugs you all!

    Okay, rant or whatever this was is over now. You may all return to your regular programing. *giggles*

  3. Whimsy Winx permalink
    May 6, 2009 7:40 pm

    Loves you all, knows we are all burnt out, cashed out on meaningless dramas, shocked by legit drama tangents gone horribly askew, worried about friends, wishes I could make casseroles with icky mushrooms to torture small children with for Tesa.

  4. Sugarr Delight permalink*
    May 6, 2009 7:41 pm

    I love you people. ❤

  5. May 6, 2009 8:07 pm

    I wish I was english speaking sometimes, so I could express myself as nicely and clearly as that. You just put into words what I have been miserably failing at expressing for SO long. People would just think I was whiny and rude, but I had no words or sentences like yours to explain. Four long years… Thank you for writing this.

  6. Jadynn Nightfire permalink
    May 7, 2009 4:36 pm

    Well said, Sugarbaby. Thinking of our closest friends and the real, devistating things that they are going through, and have been through recently, just fuels how sickened I am by the petty,random unkindness that we hear, and read daily. I´ll never understand what is so hard about being a little openhearted towards each other..a little more understanding.. ..We all come to SL to connect with others, I would love to see us all be more concious of what a wonderful opportunity we have for positive, nurturing kinds of exchanges.

  7. May 9, 2009 1:17 pm

    I love icky mushrooms Whims lol. Sugarr is the queen of finding ways to put things into words, that’s why we made her blog:p

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